Words of Condolence

Sympathy letters are some of the most difficult pieces to write. Death is a time of great sadness, no matter the cause. Writing a letter should come from the heart and often, more than what is on a card needs to be said. Here are some helpful suggestions and samples to be used to help write a condolence letter.

Words of comfort and sympathy are key, but it is important not to assume the bereaved feelings are understood. Quotes and poems are often used in condolence letters and can be very inspirational and meaningful. It is also fine for the writer to admit he or she does not know what to say or how the bereaved feels. Honesty and heartfelt words are the best way to go.

Try to include something positive, maybe a happy memory that was shared by all, or the positive effect that the person had on the bereaved. Let them know that peace will come, but make sure it is not assumed that it will be fast or needs to be rushed. It is also best to stay away from clichés like “I know what you must be going through” or “time will heal.” Writing from the heart is much better.

If possible, mention stopping by or calling to check on them. It is all right if that comes later, too, as people are busy and friends and family often get back to their lives and the griever is left alone.

A condolence letter sample follows; of course, change the wording as it suits the loss:

Dear Friend,
I am heartbroken at the loss of your father and the sadness you are experiencing, and I know that he will be missed by you and many others.

Please be kind to yourself during this sad time, and I pray for the time when your sadness and grief is gently replaced by smiles and pleasant memories. You were truly blessed to have had your father in your life as a parent, a role model and a friend.

I am here for anything you need, please call, even if you just need a shoulder to cry on or ear for listening. You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.

With love and comfort,

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